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Post by CrimsonAngel on Jun 3, 2006 12:14:52 GMT -5
Good we got a response from somebody younger. How about some of the guests that are lurking??? Or current members? Or maybe some of the mods??? Let's hear everybody's viewpoints
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Post by MT on Jun 3, 2006 12:15:55 GMT -5
Oh I don't know Laura, that's why I said that I wasn't taking any sides. I mean I think that if we had more Apolo to talk about, then we would have less of alot of stuff on the board. But then again, I don't thnk we should banned anybody, or any topic. But we have to think of some solutions as to how we can create a more harmonizing board. I thought having the poll was a great to do that. What went wrong You get my exaltation for that well put and spot on post, Crimson. We aren't always on the same wave length but, you hit the nail on the head this time. We don't drift off topic when there is more of his most interesting self to see/discuss. I understand about being uninterested in oversharing, but this and other chat groups serve as a much needed therapeutic outlet for each person on here and each of us need to let off steam for different reasons. Some are just so keen on Apolo and have no one else to share it with (well, most of us are like that), others have divorces going on, a husband who has been gone for fricking ever and are about to expire from the dreaded Hawaiin disease "Lakanookee," some are stressing over school, etc, etc. I may not be exactly interested in whatever your personal issues are, but I wouldn't take away the safety net of being able to vent/share in a safe setting from anybody. If I don't wanna hear about your SOB of a boss or fixation on soul patches, or whatever else leaks all over a board, I'll skip that post. As for certain topics dominating the board. At best, they dominate a thread and only for a brief period. THese things are cyclic. Nobody thinks about the same thing all the time, or can post endless pictures about the same thing or find others to join in the same conversation ad nauseum. Not even the Canadians can inspire that much single-mindedness. Right Ruffiean? Finally, although I don't understand why people get so adamant about the pressure to officially join the board (it's not like there are membership fees to garnish) I do have to agree - post an opinion if you want, but if you're not registered, you're a guest and I don't think you get a vote on the direction the site should go.
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Post by CrimsonAngel on Jun 3, 2006 12:19:30 GMT -5
Yeah MT put a post on the thread!! And MT, I gave a shout out to ya in one of my above posts!!! Yo! Yo! Yo! And thanks for the Karma I gotta eat my Hot Dogs!!!
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Post by laura6 on Jun 3, 2006 12:34:00 GMT -5
yes MT...they do not register and rarely post!! unfortunatly when they do it is somewhat negative.... I to suffer from the lackanookie disease!!!! hubby is gone 6 days and home 1!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yikes it is difficult....I do not work and my kids are older teens do their own thing...especially since my 17 yr olds wh**re has a car.. OOPS did I say that out loud?
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Post by MT on Jun 3, 2006 12:35:53 GMT -5
Yeah MT put a post on the thread!! And MT, I gave a shout out to ya in one of my above posts!!! Yo! Yo! Yo! And thanks for the Karma I gotta eat my Hot Dogs!!! What? Have I been remiss? I was getting the impression I was overposting, not under responding. Can't please all the people all the time, better just please myself ..... and Apolo (in my dreams) ;D
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Post by Nikki on Jun 3, 2006 12:53:24 GMT -5
Well, I feel sufficiently told, so I will take my 'guest' opinion and head for higher ground...Share at will.
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Post by Bella on Jun 3, 2006 12:59:07 GMT -5
Hey, Crims, in case you haven't notices there are not "some" mods on this board there are only 2, and one of us hasn't posted in 7 days.
I'm glad to see so many people having such stung opinions about the direction of this site, particularly Nikki. I challenge each of you that has such strong opinions to put your money where your mouth is and volunteer to become a moderator and spend some of your not so free time and energy trying to steer this ship. You'll find it a lot more difficult than making a few capricious posts expressing your disappointment about the general direction of the board or complaining that what people are posting is tacky.
Nikki, it was me who posted about "making love" with my husband. Clearly my comment offended you, and since that particular comment was not totally essential to the overall meaning of my post, I have deleted it.
Everyone has the power to start a thread, so if people want to have non-tacky, tasteful, insightful discussions about Apolo then for crying out loud start a thread and make posts to it! A moderator is not the only one who can steer the direction of a conversation. Everyone can do that. If you are offended or impressed by what someone says or think a comment is tacky, just respond to it right then and there - voice your concerns, opinions, frustrations or praise. Don't lurk around for weeks and then complain to the members in a few isolated posts that you don't want to join us because we have gone off in a direction that's not to your liking. If you don't like the direction or tone of this forum and you're not willing to try to change it by joining or even just contributing on a regular basis, then find another forum that suits you.
**Bella throwing up her arms in frustration**
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Post by Bella on Jun 3, 2006 13:11:38 GMT -5
And MT and Crims you are right. These things are cyclical and the more active information we have about what Apolo is doing, the more active our conversations get, in a very positive way. When we are bored with less Apolo news, the discussions go straight to "down there". I tried my best at first to steer things back on topic, but I am only one person, and frankly, I can't do it all and I'm getting a little tired of trying.
And it really chaps my hide when guests from the outside come in and make evaluations about the way things ought to be run without taking any responsibility for how things are run. I find it incredibly obtuse. No offense to Nikki personally. I don't know her personally, afterall.
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Post by MT on Jun 3, 2006 13:32:06 GMT -5
Hey, Crims, in case you haven't notices there are not "some" mods on this board there are only 2, and one of us hasn't posted in 7 days. I'm glad to see so many people having such stung opinions about the direction of this site, particularly Nikki. I challenge each of you that has such strong opinions to put your money where your mouth is and volunteer to become a moderator and spend some of your not so free time and energy trying to steer this ship. You'll find it a lot more difficult than making a few capricious posts expressing your disappointment about the general direction of the board or complaining that what people are posting is tacky. Nikki, it was me who posted about "making love" with my husband. Clearly my comment offended you, and since that particular comment was not totally essential to the overall meaning of my post, I have deleted it. Everyone has the power to start a thread, so if people want to have non-tacky, tasteful, insightful discussions about Apolo then for crying out loud start a thread and make posts to it! A moderator is not the only one who can steer the direction of a conversation. Everyone can do that. If you are offended or impressed by what someone says or think a comment is tacky, just respond to it right then and there - voice your concerns, opinions, frustrations or praise. Don't lurk around for weeks and then complain to the members in a few isolated posts that you don't want to join us because we have gone off in a direction that's not to your liking. If you don't like the direction or tone of this forum and you're not willing to try to change it by joining or even just contributing on a regular basis, then find another forum that suits you. **Bella throwing up her arms in frustration** Oh, put it back, bella. I mean, I was envious as all get out. But, if there is anything I (and the rest of the world too) needs evidence of it's that a married couple can still be in love and passionate towards each other after the honeymoon phase. My husband and I were getting way off track and it took a year of forced seperation to get us back on track and shake off the daily annoyances of toilet seat positions, dirty socks in the LR, and just not making time for each other. That and the Winter Olympics coupled with the Cosmo cover reminded me I HAVE a 'down there' and I am as grateful to Apolo for that wake-up call as my husband is. Nikki can just deal with it; I promise my libidinous postings will calm down (well, probably not allll oif them) just as soon as the legitimate object of my desire gets his round, furry butt and "giblets" back home where they belong. As for the mod-ing. Man, I feel for you. I'd offer to help out, but that might be like pouring gasoline on the fire, aye. Maybe if we do start a seperate red-shoe diary thread you can saddle me withit as a just dessert kinda thing.
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Post by Nikki on Jun 3, 2006 13:39:15 GMT -5
I stand by what I said, tacky...NO desire at all to join now, and I can't imagine many others feeling that way either. I don't understand the mentality of discussing this kind of thing on an internet site either...I did try to join prior, and said so several times. I think posts are not comprehended particularly well on this site, ya know. Now I have no desire to even READ or LURK, so go at it. I was waiting to hear from the moderator before completely leaving, and now I have. I wonder what the owner of this board will think when she comes back. If the word d**n is blocked, what will she think of more graphic phrasings. Now LADIES, go for the throat. This board is just plain tacky!!! Yep, I'm pissed, and that's pretty hard to do..make me pissed...
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Post by Bella on Jun 3, 2006 13:42:40 GMT -5
MT you are wonderful! I totally understand your experience and I can totally relate. Thanks for understanding me, too. I have some creative ideas for how to help us all get what we want out of this board, but I don't have time to implement them until later on tonight (I have a 4 year old waiting patiently to play legos with his Mama... he won't be making those kind of requests forever, so I want to enjoy them while I can).
But later tonight, I will try out some new angles and see what everyone thinks.
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Post by NIKKI on Jun 3, 2006 13:43:18 GMT -5
I did forget to add, can you NOT understand how your discussions have driven people away and made them NOT want to contribute to threads...GEEZ is that hard to figure out...people are gone for a few days, look at the direction of these threads and go elsewhere..I finally decided to say what I thought last night and to discuss, but alas, no discussions, attacks. So whomever, GO FOR IT! I AM SO DONE!
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Post by MT on Jun 3, 2006 13:45:42 GMT -5
yes MT...they do not register and rarely post!! unfortunatly when they do it is somewhat negative.... I to suffer from the lackanookie disease!!!! hubby is gone 6 days and home 1!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yikes it is difficult....I do not work and my kids are older teens do their own thing...especially since my 17 yr olds wh**re has a car.. OOPS did I say that out loud? I bet that is one good day, though. ;D I enjoy hearing about your young man even if he isn't Apolo.
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Post by Bella on Jun 3, 2006 13:50:01 GMT -5
If posts are misunderstood, then perhaps it is the poster who has failed to make himself/herself clear.
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Post by CrimsonAngel on Jun 3, 2006 13:51:15 GMT -5
I stand by what I said, tacky...NO desire at all to join now, and I can't imagine many others feeling that way either. I don't understand the mentality of discussing this kind of thing on an internet site either...I did try to join prior, and said so several times. I think posts are not comprehended particularly well on this site, ya know. Now I have no desire to even READ or LURK, so go at it. I was waiting to hear from the moderator before completely leaving, and now I have. I wonder what the owner of this board will think when she comes back. If the word d**n is blocked, what will she think of more graphic phrasings. Now LADIES, go for the throat. This board is just plain tacky!!! Yep, I'm pissed, and that's pretty hard to do..make me pissed... Nikki, well you can do like some people do. Posts on the threads that they want to and advoid the others. Also, ther eis more than one board. When I first got here, I barely went to the Non-Apolo board, now I am there all the time. When news about Apolo picks back up, you will want to post again so just stay and post where you want until more things pick up. Bella, when I said some mods, I meant you and Nerka. I don't think volunteering might be the best idea until after Lindsey comes back. Simply because she asked you to come on in, so she might not just want anybody being a mod on her board. Just my opinion. Maybe you can email her about it.
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