teri
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Post by teri on May 10, 2006 4:31:34 GMT -5
Amy, sometimes it helps get rid of the anger over the events to talk about them.
I think we all have our terrible mother-in-law stories. Here is one of mine.
There are five children in my husband, Mark's, family and the youngest is 17 years younger than my husband. In fact I was dating my husband when his younger brother was born. When we planned our wedding my mother-in-law was not happy about it (Mark was the first child to be married) and had a problem with everything we planned.
Well we had asked if Mark's youngest brother could be the ring bearer and everyone agreed. However, my mother-in-law made him so upset that Mark would be "moving away and leaving them" that the kid was beside himself. She actually called me the night before the wedding and told me he was going to be too sick to be in the wedding party.
I was so aggrivated with her by this time that I had to pass the call to my Mom. I just couldn't deal with her anymore.
Of course, he was fine and he was a little charmer at the wedding but she just had to make me as crazy as possible right up until we said "I do".
Great way to start being one of the family!
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Post by Bella on May 11, 2006 23:49:55 GMT -5
Teri, that's horrible! What was she thinking?!! OK, since we are sharing war stories.... Once, at a holiday dinner at my sister in law's house (a dinner which I had helped to prepare for the better part of the day), in front of a myriad of guests and relatives, all from my husband's side of the family (my family lives in another state), my mother in law started talking about her brother who was not present. Then she started talking about his wife and all the things this wife did that she was displeased and dissatisfied with and how her brother was too good for him, blah, blah, blah. My husband got up from the table and went into the kitchen to refresh some drinks during her tyrade on this wife. While my husband was in the kitchen, she finished her rant by saying "oh well, she's not the real family, anyway..." implying that anyone who had married in and was not "blood" was not part of the family. Everyone fell silent and tried not to look at me. My face got all hot and I turned very red. My husband came back into the room and someone immediately changed the subject. She had gotten away with it. I was just devistated by her comment, but I kept it to myself because I didn't want to spoil the day for anyone else, particularly my husband. After the meal, I went into the bathroom and silently cried until I felt angry. Then, I saw my mother in law's toilet kit on the vanity (she was staying with my sister in law, so she had her stuff in the bathroom). I opened it up and found her toothbrush, and then, I brushed my teeth with it. Then I dried it off and put it back in her toilet kit. Feeling at peace, I went back out to rejoin the festivities. Later that night, as my husband and I were driving home, my husband said "you're awfully quiet..". I told him what had happened during dinner as gently as I could and how hurt I had been. He grabbed my hand and said "You're my real family and that's what counts!" When we got home, we had amazing s*e*x... I never told him or anyone else about the toothbrush (until now). To this day, whenever she starts getting to me, I just think of her toothbrush and it makes me giggle.  |
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Post by amyurban on May 12, 2006 8:54:38 GMT -5
You are a MUCH NICER person than me, Bella. I would of brushed the da*m*n*ed TOILET with it and THEN returned it!  Sorry but that comment she made was pure B.S. and I would of retaliated MUCH worse than you. As I said...you are a MUCH nicer person than me.  |
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Post by laura6 on May 12, 2006 9:01:46 GMT -5
my mom in law used to say her son was marrying me because he did not want his {our} son calling someone else daddy...
and his grandpa said if he didn't marry me he would buy him a new truck
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Post by amyurban on May 12, 2006 9:07:29 GMT -5
Maybe we all should re-name this the "Mother-In-Laws From HELL" thread! LOL! Sounds about right. And no, I have friends who have GREAT M-O-L's so, I guess we all just got LUCKY, eh?  Believe me, I am being VERY sarcastic there, ladies...VERY!  |
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Post by laura6 on May 12, 2006 10:59:41 GMT -5
well my hubby got a great mom inlaw!!!! my mom always says she likes my husband more than she likes me!!! LOL
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Post by Bella on May 12, 2006 22:49:56 GMT -5
Thanks for the support, everyone.
Since it is almost mother's day, how 'bout people sharin' a fond memory of their own Mom.
I'll start.
One of the nicest memories I have of my Mom is when I was pregnant, for the entire time I was pregnant, she never asked "how's the baby today?", she always asked "how are you feeling today?". Just a simple little thing, really, but it meant a lot to me, 'cause everyone (especially my mother-in-law) was always askin' 'bout the baby.
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teri
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Post by teri on May 13, 2006 4:08:31 GMT -5
My, my our 'war stories' really do make you think about how down right mean and uncaring people can be sometimes.
As you get older you learn to grow a thicker skin and not let the snide and hurtful comments bother you so much. The best coping skill I have learned is to realize that no matter how much time I have to spend in the presence of someone I would rather not be with and no matter what is said, in the end I get to be home and spend most of my time with just my husband and daughter. You can put up with most anything if it is in small doses.
My favorite thing about my Mom is her capacity for caring for everyone and knowing that no matter how many people she cares for each one has a special place in her heart. Most of my friends as well as my brothers and sisters friends have been "adopted" by my Mom. They call her and stay in touch with her even though they have their own parents just because she has always been so open and caring with all of them. She has been a special friend to those that don't get along with their own families.
She's been my role model in that way and now I have a bunch of "special children", some of Rachel's friends, who I will always care for and stay in touch with.
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Post by Krysten on May 13, 2006 13:44:13 GMT -5
Hello Moms.
How are you guys this fine evening??? LOL.
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Post by amyurban on May 14, 2006 10:34:17 GMT -5
For my fellow mothers and friends on this board, I just wanna give this to you for Mother's Day. Love you guys!  |
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Post by apolosgal on May 14, 2006 10:38:34 GMT -5
Happy Mothers Day to all u moms!!  |
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Post by laura6 on May 14, 2006 10:40:23 GMT -5
thats really nice amy!!! Thanks alot!!
my husband is working today..and the boys are with their g/fs...
although we celebrated last week it is still weird
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Post by Bella on May 14, 2006 15:00:23 GMT -5
Laura, they gave you the ideal gift... a little peace and quiet, eh?
Thanks for the well wishes, everyone!
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Post by Krysten on May 14, 2006 15:41:59 GMT -5
HAPPY M DAYS GUYS!!!!
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Post by teri on May 14, 2006 18:23:09 GMT -5
Happy Mother's Day everyone.
Amy, that was lovely.
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