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Post by Krysten on May 3, 2006 21:20:24 GMT -5
LOL nice job CG. LOL ;D
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Post by teri on May 4, 2006 23:18:06 GMT -5
I received this email today from my friend Marcy and thought you might all enjoy it.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking (Written By A Former Child)
A Message Every Adult Should Read, Because Children Are Watching You And Doing As You Do, Not As You Say.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Saw You Hang My First Painting On The Refrigerator, And I Immediately Wanted To Paint Another One.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Saw You Feed A Stray Cat, And I Learned That It Was Good To Be Kind To Animals.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Saw You Make My Favorite Cake For Me And I Learned That The Little Things Can Be The Special Things In Life.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Heard You Say A Prayer, And I Knew There Is A God I Could Always Talk To And I Learned To Trust In God.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Saw You Make A Meal And Take It To A Friend Who Was Sick, And I Learned That We All Have To Help Take Care Of Each Other.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Saw You Give Of Your Time And Money To Help People Who Had Nothing And I Learned That Those Who Have Something Should Give To Those Who Don't.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Saw You Take Care Of Our House And Everyone In It And I Learned We Have To Take Care Of What We Are Given.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Saw How You Handled Your Responsibilities, Even When You Didn't Feel Good And I Learned That I Would Have To Be Responsible When I Grow Up.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Saw Tears Come From Your Eyes And I Learned That Sometimes Things Hurt, But It's All Right To Cry.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Saw That You Cared And I Wanted To Be Everything That I Could Be.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Learned Most Of Life's Lessons That I Need To Know To Be A Good And Productive Person When I Grow Up.
When You Thought I Wasn't Looking, I Looked At You And Wanted To Say, "Thanks For All The Things I Saw When You Thought I Wasn't Looking."
I Am Sending This To All Of The People I Know Who Do So Much For Others And Think No One Ever Sees.
Little Eyes See A Lot.
Each Of Us (Parent, Grandparent, Aunt, Uncle, Teacher Or Friend) Influence The Life Of A Child. How Will You Touch The Life Of Someone Today?
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Post by Bella on May 4, 2006 23:36:55 GMT -5
Awwwww, Teri. That is so heartwarming! And perfect for right near Mother's Day.
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Post by teri on May 4, 2006 23:38:55 GMT -5
Bella,
How are you planning on speding Mother's Day? Are you doing anything special?
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Post by Bella on May 4, 2006 23:44:40 GMT -5
Today when I came home from work, my son wanted to make alphabet sugar cookies. I didn't want to 'cause I was exhausted and not in the mood and definitely not in the mood to clean up the mess, but I had some dough already made up and I said "Okaaaaay".
My little 4 year old pulled out the stepping stool and bellied up to the counter. He helped me roll out the dough and we cut out the letters of his name and put them on the cookie sheet. Then he asked if he could cut out some heart shapes for me, so I let him. He cut out two big hearts, and delighted with himself, placed them on the cookie sheet. "These are for you, cute little Mamabird," he said and he hugged me around my waist. "It says Mamalove one and Mamalove two!". Imagine if I had said no, I would have missed out on that!
Such little things make all the difference.
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Post by teri on May 4, 2006 23:55:12 GMT -5
Oh Bella, that was beautiful.
I think our most precious memories are of everyday moments shared just like that rather than the big events, vacations or whatever.
Enjoy your little one as much as you can when he is young. I know it sounds trite, but they do grow up much too fast.
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Post by apolosgal on May 5, 2006 17:58:21 GMT -5
Teri I loved that When you thought i wasn't looking. It was so sweet i wanna print it out and show it to everyone who has helped shape me into the person i am today.
And Bella that is so sweet spending time with ur children is really precious. u sound like such a great Mama.
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Post by Bella on May 5, 2006 22:25:48 GMT -5
I will have my mother in law visiting from out of town for mothers day. So I will be catering to her every whim and desire and trying to be a good daughter in law.  |
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Post by Krysten on May 5, 2006 22:37:39 GMT -5
Oh that's cool.
Hey did you see that movie Monster In Law?? With JLo?
LOL that just reminded me of that haha.
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Post by Bella on May 5, 2006 23:16:46 GMT -5
Yeah, that was hilarious. I've had my share of "situations" with my mother in law, but in the end, she raised my husband and I respect her for that.
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Post by amyurban on May 5, 2006 23:27:33 GMT -5
I shouldn't say this and God rest my mother-in-law's soul but...the woman did NOT know her boundaries, not at all. She drove ME and everyone else around her NUTS. Too overbearing and did not know when to stay out of things. Sad she died but...nevermind. I hope you know what I mean and don't think I am a heartless witch of a shrew kind of person now! |
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Post by Bella on May 5, 2006 23:44:25 GMT -5
In law relationships can be so tricky. There's a fine line you walk, especially with a mother in law. She's kinda like the "other woman" in a sense. She raised the man you love and she knows so much about him, but she doesn't know everything, and you don't want to throw that in her face, 'cause that would be a little disrespectful to her, but at the same time, you kinda want her to respect your place in her son's life without you constantly having to earn it from her.
Bit of a run on sentence, but you get my gist.
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Post by teri on May 6, 2006 6:39:15 GMT -5
In-law relations, from what I have witnessed, can be one of the biggest strains on a marriage.
After being married for 25 years, my mother-in-law and I now have a semi-pleasant relationship. That is mainly due to the fact that while I don't agree with her or approve of how she acts (she is manipulative and tries to run everyones lives) I am always respectful to her and try to keep the peace. (I'll probably die of an ulser!).
That can be especially hard when her own son is usually aggrevated with her.
I've been lucky in that my husband loves my parents and they have always liked him. At least we only have drama on one side of the family.
Bella, hope your family pampers you a little on Mother's Day too. You sound like a terrific Mom.
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Post by Bella on May 6, 2006 10:28:34 GMT -5
Teri, Thanks! I like you. ;D
I can totally relate to everything you just said. Although I have not been married quite so long, I go through similar "keep the peace" type rituals. Semi-pleasant is the perfect adjective to describe my relationship with my husband's mother (who has similar issues) and my husband gets along great with my folks.
Kinda spooky, the similarity... but I guess it's a pretty common scenario.
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Post by amyurban on May 6, 2006 12:33:53 GMT -5
Well, since hubby and I started so "late in the game" marriage and kid wise, neither of us live near any of our relatives ( we both have HUGE issues with our families, in general. We get along with just a couple of the family members and the rest of them DRIVE US INSANE! ) So hubby and I kind of bonded that way together due to that and many other similarities. But yeah, my late mother-in-law was constantly calling and trying to tell me how to handle my husband, how to raise our daugther, you name it. Then, when she came to visit while I was pregnant with my daugther, Oh Good God! It was ALL about HER and I was late having my child and ended up having to have her ceserean because she would not come out, not even after they tried to induce me. To make a LONG story short, my late mother-in-law had been suffering small little heart attacks for several days before my scheduled cesearean section, right? Well, she did NOT tell ANYONE until the day I got admitted to the hospital and HAD my daugther. So, of course, they admitted her and she ended up having to have a pacemaker put in. My poor husband was busy running back and forth from the heart ward to the maternity ward for the 3 days we both were there. I'm surprised he didn't have a nervous breakdown. But see....she HAD to take the attention AWAY from me. It HAD to end up being about her. And I'm not saying this to be mean, either. At one of her own daugther's weddings, she threw a FIT because everyone was paying attention to the daugther that was getting married and NOT her. She ended up causing a HUGE disruption in the reception and almost ruined it due to her temper tantrum. So she had alot more than just overbearing issues. She was d**ned near impossible, I tell ya. The woman needed THERAPY!  Sorry that was so long, you guys. But I just kind of had to get that out. Not many people know about some of the things I had to put up with when that woman was alive. Nice to have a couple of other married with children women in here to relate to. I love you guys!  |
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