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Post by rose on Apr 19, 2006 9:58:36 GMT -5
It's not about the right girl, for a man it's about the Right Time, with whoever...if she's the right girl, then it's a great match, if she not the right girl, it won't match...but it's your talking about a man settling, it's about when HE"S ready. That is a really interesting observation, Crimson. I had not thought of that exactly but you do have a point. My own husband was "ready" at age 19. He was 19 when we got married and he held a job, went to college full time and was a great husband....but he was definitely the exception. |
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Post by CrimsonAngel on Apr 19, 2006 10:19:25 GMT -5
Crims i think it has to be about the right time and the right person!! I don't think u can have one without the other. lol No i'm saying you can't have one without the other, but again, that is thinking like a woman. In terms of a man, again I say, with them it's about "the right time"! Now I'm talking in terms of getting married, I am not talking in terms of developing relationships, and stuff like that...I just mean his mindset. When he is ready to make that commitment, then he will regardless of who is in or not in his life right at that moment. If the "right girl" is in his life when he is ready, then it's a great match. If the "wrong girl" is in his life when he's ready then he will find out it is the wrong match and then start over again.Now do you understand me? Or does anybody understand me? |
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Post by CrimsonAngel on Apr 19, 2006 10:22:24 GMT -5
It's not about the right girl, for a man it's about the Right Time, with whoever...if she's the right girl, then it's a great match, if she not the right girl, it won't match...but it's your talking about a man settling, it's about when HE"S ready. That is a really interesting observation, Crimson. I had not thought of that exactly but you do have a point. My own husband was "ready" at age 19. He was 19 when we got married and he held a job, went to college full time and was a great husband....but he was definitely the exception. Exactly!! And you were the "right girl" at the "right time"  I'm telling you, anybody who is spending money on cars and living in dorms, and skipping out on V-day, and saying in public that he is skipping out on V-day, is not ready for anything but what he got. I don't care who he is with or how long they have been together. Once women understand this, they can save themselves alot of heartbreak and make much wiser choices about their relationships in general. |
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Post by apolosgal on Apr 19, 2006 10:23:03 GMT -5
I think i gotcha Crims.  |
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Post by CrimsonAngel on Apr 19, 2006 10:29:38 GMT -5
I think i gotcha Crims. I mean I'm not saying that Apolo is not a great guy, I mean I don't know him. I think he maybe great, he seems great. But again, the guy will be 24 in a month. He has his whole life ahead of him, let's celebrate who he is now and what he is to become. And what he represents for us, which a great ST speedskater! |
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Post by laura6 on Apr 19, 2006 12:11:18 GMT -5
Rose...I agree I was 22 with 2 kids and married 4 yrs...my husband was 24...but it was not easy...it was so hard...we really only got good in the last 3 yrs...bought a home..actually have MONEY!!!
All of our freinds went to college and we lost touch because our live were different..now my kids are late teens and my freinds are just starting families...its weird i am doing prom and my freinds are doing potty training...
Crimson..is totally correct...guys have to be totally ready...and even then they can be a pain in the ass
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Post by rose on Apr 19, 2006 13:22:25 GMT -5
Yes, I agree, Laura. In many ways it is hard to be married so young. For us is was absolutely the right thing, but that does not mean it was easy. We have been married nearly 19 years. We were married for five years before we had our first living child. I think it was good that it was just the two of us for so long, though I am very thankful for the five children we have now. My children range in age from nearly 14 down to nearly 5. I guess I am kind of rambling here. I don't recommend young marriages and I don't really want that for my children, but for us it happened to be the right thing.
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Post by apolosgal on Apr 19, 2006 14:58:54 GMT -5
Rose if i may ask was ur husband the only person you've ever dated or did u date guys before him?
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Post by CrimsonAngel on Apr 19, 2006 17:32:41 GMT -5
Exactly! I mean I think that we try, especially as women, to romantize certain celebrity relationships, especially when a couple "looks cute" or "seems perfect" for each other. But everything ain't always what it seems.
I read what Apolo wrote in his autobiography about the first girl, it was very touching, but she kinda open up a new side for him. Now he has Alison, who probably is a good girlfriend for now.
But that doesn't mean that he is ready. Sometimes we meet people that building blocks to eventually good partners....and then sometimes we meet people very, very young who are good for us. And then we meet them much later.
If he ain't has his "young love" by now, then he probably hasn't met her yet. And that's just the truth. The more women realize this the better off they will be. Listen to the married women ladies!
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Post by rose on Apr 19, 2006 17:51:26 GMT -5
Rose if i may ask was ur husband the only person you've ever dated or did u date guys before him? Sure you can ask.  He is the first person I dated seriously but I did date a couple of guys before him...one for nearly a year but it was more friendship than romance. |
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Post by laura6 on Apr 19, 2006 18:33:01 GMT -5
Rose...we dream of the day we are alone...we married when i was 8 mos. pregnant...but we are in the home stretch!!!!!!LOL
Crimson I totally get it...first time around!!! you actually are always quite clear!!!!
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Post by Krysten on Apr 19, 2006 19:22:31 GMT -5
hi peoples!
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Post by rach2crazy on Apr 19, 2006 19:35:43 GMT -5
HI! TWIN even though u said hi 2 me already LOL
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Post by Krysten on Apr 19, 2006 19:36:25 GMT -5
i know LOL...
but i'll say hi again
HIIIIIIIII!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by rach2crazy on Apr 19, 2006 19:40:05 GMT -5
LOL HIII!!!!!!
MEOW HENRY!!!
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