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Post by tabatha on Jul 11, 2008 13:27:59 GMT -5
Sorry all, but I thought I'd give you all warning before coming into my post, and I'm gonna come off as a b**ch and I apologize ahead of time...
My patience has run thin. Why do people let their kids come over to our house and do as they wish? Even my nieces and nephews have the pleasure of doing this. And there's company doing the same d**n thing! Here's what I mean...
Is it right to let your kid go through people's things while they are in another person's home? I mean, going into their room, and go through their personal belongings? I've dealt with this before, and I live upstairs for a reason. Not to have my personal space violated. Is it too much to ask for? Not to let your kids run the show, scream, cuss, bite, spit (oh yeah, spit) and demand things. Hell, they went right through our enterainment center right in front of my mom! Jeeze. This is my brother's friends kids. I'd be ashamed to have my kids do that. I love kids, but I like the ones who mind and respect the ones who tell them to play it cool. I'd never dream of calling my mom names, or hit her. Yet that's what her grandkids do. I'm sorry, but I can't help it, I may come across as someone who doesn't understand, blah blah blah.
Fire me at will...go ahead.
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Post by number1fan on Jul 11, 2008 13:39:07 GMT -5
you have every rght to be pisssed off tabs...since i don't care what others think of me anymore (LOL), i'd tell those kids and their parents in a stern voice my displeasure...d*mn it!
i've taught my girls to never touch anyones belongings before asking...even their best friends! and i expect that from their friends when they come over.
it's all about respect for another person and their belongings, which to me, is part of that person.
IN KINDERGARTEN...DON'T THEY TEACH THE KIDS TO KEEP THEIR HANDS TO THEMSELVES???
let me at 'em tabs 
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Post by tabatha on Jul 11, 2008 14:12:09 GMT -5
They finally left, but had the nerve to call me...strange. wtf? why cause I like my things not bothered. Oooh, I was about to go crazy. My oldest nephew is polite, he comes up and asks to play my game or watch tv, and I let him...grrr, some parents amaze me! Thanks number1.
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Post by apolosangel8907 on Jul 11, 2008 14:30:10 GMT -5
Tabs..I know how you feel....remember I work in a daycare...so that is my life....The kids are going through each others things, they try and go through my purse....I have seen then looking at my phone, and I happen to have some interesting texts from some guys so it could be interesting for them....they just don't listen! Sometimes you have to forget being nice and let them know that that shi+ won't fly around there...let them know that if they don't knock it off, you will come over to their house and go through their stuff!
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Post by tabatha on Jul 11, 2008 20:51:06 GMT -5
Thanks Jacy.  Don't know how you do it. Got kids over on the weekends, they are a handful. |
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Post by jennaceeta25 on Jul 11, 2008 21:23:20 GMT -5
I understand completely, tabs! They should exactly call before they come over..You know what I mean? One time I think my cousin came over, and I think, took my earrings that were a lot of money, which my mommom bought me. I can't even find em. Do you have door to your room you could lock? maybe? I'm sorry this is happening to you, Tab. Yeah, let Number1 and I take care of it! |
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Post by tabatha on Jul 11, 2008 21:37:05 GMT -5
I have two rooms, but only one door, that closes one room from another. I don't have a door that closes off the room from the stairs. I'm just a shy person who likes to hang around my room. At least tell me you're coming up, and not barge in!
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Post by susie on Jul 11, 2008 21:46:01 GMT -5
Tabbie, it's called "failure to discipline." Don't get a teacher started on this, LOL.
Here's what you do: give the parent a minute or two to intervene. If he or she won't, feel free to step in if it's your house, your things, or your health, welfare, etc. at stake. Look the child straight in the eye, and say, "In this house, we don't [fill in the blank]." If that's not clear enough, expand on it: "I'm sure that at home, your parents have certain rules, and in my home, I have certain rules as well." Don't apologize! The "In this house" phrase allows the parent to save face.
For cussing, say, "We use our best language here." For spitting, just tell the child firmly to cut it out. Don't tolerate biting or hitting under any circumstances.
Some children may not get much discipline at home, but trust me, they're used to hearing what's what at school. So don't be afraid to play the "alpha wolf" when you need to.
Teachers do instruct children on rules and behavior, but in reality, it all comes from a child's home environment...we can only reinforce what is being taught in the home. Sadly, disciplining children has in many cases become a lost art.
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Post by number1fan on Jul 11, 2008 22:22:00 GMT -5
good riddance and don't hurry back y'hear!
if there's a next time, just let jen & i take of 'em for ya! 
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Post by jennaceeta25 on Jul 11, 2008 22:23:57 GMT -5
I have two rooms, but only one door, that closes one room from another. I don't have a door that closes off the room from the stairs. I'm just a shy person who likes to hang around my room. At least tell me you're coming up, and not barge in! Oh I hate when people do that! Hey, Number1 & me could be your bodyguards to your door! So they can knock if they wanna see you or if it's an emergency! |
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Post by tabatha on Jul 11, 2008 23:14:56 GMT -5
I just can't imagine letting my kids do that though. Sadly they come here and think it's okay to get away with stuff... *sigh* good advice Susie, thank u!
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